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First and foremost, I would like to address responds from the previous post.

tianhui: BGR would mean more commitment and more expectation from that special one whileas friends, unlikely to have

Respond: I will agree with you to a certain extend. Reason being both commitment and expectation do exist within friendships. Although its a different kind of commitment and expectation per-say, both factors applies differently. Commitment being staying true-full to each other, embrace each other in love. Expectation is more or less the same, excluding some exceptional ones.Really, just some. I think the problem with people now is that they treat friendship too likely, thus lowering the expectation to a unreasonable level. Therefore, after some time, perception of friendship changed. Sadly to a less desirable state.

Irene: same with lover. but at least, if they love u, they will always stand by u. and lover make intentional efforts to make time for u too. it depends on individual's prorities and values.

12 May 10, 18:26

Irene: can be true... but not everyone have true friends. actually, not everyone have friends. cuz friends can be nice to u but can also hurt u.

Respond: To be frank with my respond, I hate it when friends doesn't treat friends like FRIENDS. What am I saying, for instance, friends make intentional efforts for friends. I start to doubt if I am the only one that actually does intentionally make efforts for friends. But I must also agree that my other friends rarely does the same thing I did and worst still, they doesn't acknowledge what you have give up for friends. That is rather disappointing. Its true not everyone have friends they could trust or even friend. I can't deny that. This will bring us to out next topic.

Irene: well, i think most ppl share their probs w their partner n friends to get different opinions. but some dun share w their partners becuz its a prob between the two / dun wan them to worrie.

20 May 10, 15:11

Jane: *1 thing is

20 May 10, 15:10

Jane: but mostly the other party, rather look for friends to spit out their problems then to their partner, i thing is they are afraid that they will worry and so on ...

20 May 10, 15:09

Jane: Interesting, but i agree with Irene... not all ppl have true friends ... and in BGR we will always expect our partner to give us more time & attention... and share thoughts with each other ...

Respond: More time and attention, I'm not sure if you would agree with me that these factors often cross the line between friendship and relationship. It becomes hard to identify which is for which. Both friendship and relationship(BGR) requires time and attention. Its common to see friends that have relationship neglect friendship as the line between both had been blur out. Some people choose one, either friends or relationship. What's worst is that people who choose relationship get back to friendship when they broke off with their current relationship. In another word, treating friends like spare tire. Some people just lack management skill to let both parties co-exist. Lets say if friends and relationship(BGR) shares at the same rate or even friends higher than relationship, then don't you agree that it could be better if relationship be taken to another level (friendship closeness) ?

Now, for today's topic : Why the front ? (Putting on a mask)

Have you ever wonder, why do people puts on a mask when they are with different people. In another words, different people, different front. This can be extend to a number of situation. For instance, while you are queuing up to withdraw cash from atm machine, then you saw this person you knew, and he/she knew you too. But instead of greetings, they just walk right pass you. Is it because they didn't see you, or did they choose to ignore you. I won't pin point to any of the choices I mentioned but rather say both could happen. As it was to me, I could muffle noise or images when I am thinking hard or focus on something, it happens and worst still I am unconscious of my behavior. It happens.

We won't mind if they ignored accidentally, the most some misunderstanding. What if they choose to ? Purposely did so because they are putting on a mask when they are with other people and you were in it, so he or she talks to you. But once we are out of the group and bump into each other outside, they just walk RIGHT pass you, even if you initiate greetings. I think its the awkwardness of relationship between one another, causing the ignorance effect. Sometimes its embarrassing when you sent you greeting by waving and the other party just walk pass you pretending they did not see you. If you tell me you miss me out because no motion was involved, I will believe. But when I waved at you when you are in front of me yet miss me out, that is almost impossible.

Now why, why do people put on a front. I had to admit it, it may be for the very reason that they dislike you, or doesn't treat you as "accepted" friend. I am not complaining, and it does not fully apply on me. Just another topic I thought about. Other instance may be toilet talking. If one is sincere in finding out more about you, he or she will either ask you out for tea or something that both could take time and chat your heart out. Not sure if the ladies does this, but for guys we stand and pee(if you do not know, we STAND and pee.) so while peeing side by side, someone will strike out a topic, a vague one, like ' how are you ?' the respond will surely be 'I am fine' with or without saying 'thank you for asking' I think people just want to kill the awkwardness in them when they are so close yet not speaking to each other. I believe you have face more situation than I can think of right now.

Share it.

I'll end here, and I thought of changing blog. As in wordpress or something else. Do you find it hard to tag when the tag-board are awfully small. At least I find it hard to reply there especially there is word limit.

Suggestion any one ? (HOPEFULLY.... some kind soul can help me do the shifting :x)